Thursday, 27 November 2014

American Homosexual Describes his Disillusion with the LGBT Lifestlye

Homosexuals keep up a fiction that they are happy and fulfilled in their Lifestyle. They invent sugar-coated terminology for it such as "the gay community" and through the media spread a glossy picture of themselves as golden boys, always young, rich, and having fun.
But once in a way some of them let the mask slip. They "Come out" of the hypocrisy closet and admit that it is really a miserable existence. Sick or neurotic men exploit each other callously and then treat each other with animosity or downright malice.

 I would like to shake the hand of Luis Pabon for daring to speak out so courageously. Human beings are born for nobler ideals than the sleazy queer lifestyle. I wish him well in his future.

A new article by an American homosexual “Why I No Longer Want To Be Gay” by Luis Pabon dares to tell it like it is. For daring to do so, his buddies have turned on him big time.
Let me share part of this with you:
I no longer want to be gay. I know that on the surface this statement reeks of the denial, self-loathing and internalized homophobia commonly associated with accepting and integrating ones gayness but truth is, I just don’t want to be gay anymore. It has outlived its usefulness. I have experienced all aspects of the life and can safely say that it no longer speaks to the person that I am or want to become. I didn’t always feel this way.
Initially I came to this community searching for love, intimacy and brotherhood. In return, I got shade, infidelity, loneliness and disunity. The self-loathing in this community forces you to encounter a series of broken men who are self-destructive, hurtful, cruel and vindictive towards one another. I have struggled to adapt my moral code to fit the behaviors concomitant with the lifestyle but it seems that the lifestyle is forcing me too far away from everything I love and value. No matter how many times I try to purge my perception of its firmly held beliefs and skewed biases, the same classic stereotypes of gay men keep rearing their ugly heads. The indiscriminate sex, superficiality, unstable relationships, self-hatred, peter pan syndrome, closeted connections, ageism, shade, loneliness, preoccupation with sex, prejudice, aversion to intimacy all seem to come out of the ground I thought they were buried under. Gay men just seem to find it difficult to transcend the stereotypes and clich├ęs attached to the life and it is becoming disheartening….
I am too young to long for the good old days but this life makes you miss what it meant to be gay. It makes you long for the times when a guy would greet you and offer you a drink as opposed to his cock size and sexual stats. The middleman of courtesy has been eliminated and replaced with an immoral devil who chaperons your destruction daily. It just isn’t worth it anymore. And while I recognize my attractions to men, I choose to no longer associate myself with a life that lives outside of morality and goodness. The gay life is like the love of a bad boy whose attention and love you initially covet but eventually outgrow. It’s just not where I see myself anymore.
Who is Luis Pabon? He is a handsome young black man. His website says "Luis Pabon is a Licensed Masters Social Worker (LMSW) who has worked with adults experiencing mental health and also chemical dependency issues. He is also an artist, poet, writer, singer-songwriter who continues to perform throughout the Capital Region sharing stories of hope, transformation and self actualization. "THOUGHT CATALOG

Luis Pabon

If you go and read this article on ThoughtCatalogue, you will find that quite a few homosexual men place comments AGREEING with it. Of course there isa lot of angry denial, but just listen to this message: -

Hi i agree with this article. And this is based on my personal experiences. Almost all the stuff written is something that i have either lived or eye witness personally or some close friend told me he had done. I also know that not all the gay men are into the lifestyle describe in this article, but i can tell you that in London there is a lot of this. Discovering your sexuality can sometime leading to explore dangerous path if you are not helped or you don't meet some good people that can guide you a bit in the right direction. 
The amount of unsafe sex and drug fuelled parties that are taking places every week it is high. It's now a trend to bareback apparently. Cruising on the net, either on your pc or mobile phone is basically normality. 
It's important that we all help each other i think, in learning again to have some respect for ourselves and be forgiving towards mistakes we have done. I meet younger guys sometimes through work or friends and i am always happy to talk and make them aware of what is out there for a young gay man, the amazing things, people you can meet, and the less amazing ones ...

And this one:-
how is he blaming others?, he's telling the truth., most gay men are trash in all the meaning of the word "trash!", I don't mix myself with them I stay away and keep my distance it's difficult for me to meet decent gay men and I know there is decent gay men out there but let's be real here., and everything he said is true.

And this one:- 
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      Bluboy2 days ago

      I have felt this way too for quite some time as well. Respect and dignity have faltered in our community. Our gay prides, community magazines and LGBT shows are filled with naked men, sex, parties, drugs and alcohol. Grindr, Scruff and CL promote meaningless hookups and objectify us. I too am no longer proud to be gay and am ashamed at the lifestyle most of our LGBT community lives. We want to be accepted by the heterosexual majority yet our conduct and lifestyle must change in order to change their perception of who we are.
    I promise you I am not making any of  these up! They are there on the ThoughtCatalogue website. And more 

    Thanks for a well-written article. I am amazed at how much critique you're receiving for this piece. I liked it. I think it's more a critique of society than a personal complaint and I can relate to many of the aspects discussed. Keep writing :)

    And this which is very ,very sad:-

    Plz don't judge this easily somebody who is venting out after years of frustration with gay men , we all have the right to express ourselves even if it is at the cost of that being used against us. Many of the points raised by this author are valid and the mainstream among gay men...being in my late thirties, having a high education, good job and income, being fit and good looking enough and on top of all these believing in caring, love, honesty and good intentions, I have seen nothing but rejection and shallowness in the gay world. simply by cheap reasons such as my cock was not one inch longer, I had to break up with my ex date....I can totally relate to this man and if mother nature had given me a choice, I would have definitely wanted to be a straight man.... knowing that their world has their own challenges, it is still nothing comparable to our world...

    Then you find this  one:-

    From an ex-gay stand point, you're pretty right on. Like the author, I too am in transition of leaving the gay lifestyle. Its a very shady community with agendas and hypocrisy. the homosexual lifestyle, based on my experience, over-promises and under-delivers. But now I know Jesus and am a Christian, which has proved to be more fulfilling to my life. Jesus has given me purpose, and through His body (the church) I now know what real love is, and I don't need to be sexual with other men to get it. This is a life long journey for those of us who leave the gay lifestyle.

    And another ex-gay, Andrew Comiskey, writes that "gay love is a lie".  
    A western citizen is today considered ‘enlightened’ if (s)he embraces homosexuality as inborn and unchangeable, its expression worthy of all privileges accorded marriage and family. For upholding marriage, and disagreeing with the ethical good of ‘gay’ practice, that same citizen is judged at best as ignorant and worse as a bully, a bigot, and a ‘hater.’ Criminal charges may apply: anyone not on the ‘gay’ bandwagon will lose reputation and may lose his or her business for not cooperating with ‘gay’ weddings.
    Seeking relevance, the Church at large has been reduced to silence then slow concession to what is a fierce yet well-cloaked ‘gay agenda.’ (I have witnessed this ‘agenda’ since I came out of homosexuality in the late seventies: even then, it was apparent that wealthy gay politicos were aiming at the gold ring of ‘gay marriage.’) The tactic is simple and goes something like this: “‘Gay’ people are loving and wounded. How can we further wound them by not giving them what they want? We believe in the pursuit of happiness for all, don’t we?” Seeking to be ‘loving’, the Church bows to such superficial questions with superficial answers.
    He concludes:
    The new enemy of the Church’s clear understanding of sexual humanity is ‘nice.’ Without doubt, many persons with same-sex attraction (I do not use the language of ‘gay’; it is a socio-political identification that hinders persons from resolving the attraction) are kind and loving and capable of committed friendships. Not the question. The question remains: what is our sexual humanity for? If we as Christians are not clear that the purpose of our engendered self is to mature into whole-enough gifts for the other so that we can create new lives together, then we have lost our way. We do no-one any favors to alter the boundary lines to include sexualized same-gender friendships, just as we did an earlier disservice by accommodating extramarital sex on the basis that ‘Christians do it anyway.’
    Our young interns and I recently studied ‘The Bible and Homosexual Practice’ (Abingdon Press, Dr. Robert Gagnon), the best and most scholarly approach to the subject. Without doubt, Scripture from start to finish prohibits all homosexual acts on the basis that gender ‘discomplementarity’ is an act of treason against God and one’s fellows. Period. Our ‘loving’ hearts deceive us. An ‘agenda’ has deceived us. A common enemy has deceived us.
    It may be too late for our nation to take marriage back from that agenda. But Jesus Himself will not allow His bride to be deceived. We must wake up and repent. It is not too late to forsake our ‘nice’ concession to ‘an enemy who came only to steal, kill, and destroy’ lives. (John 10:10) In concert with the One who came that ‘all may have life and have it to the full’ (John 10:10), let us open wide the doors of our hearts and churches and provide a merciful womb in which all may repent of the deception that is destroying them.
    Bill Muelenberg writes: So here we have two individuals, one daring to be honest about his lifestyle, and the other daring to confront the lies in our churches. Truth is paramount in both cases. And it is truth that must be championed here if we really want to help people. Jesus made this perfectly clear when he said: “You will know the truth and the truth will set you free” (John 8:32).
    Whether the issue is homosexuality or whatever, we are in desperate need of truth-telling. 

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